Kat Lee, RDI Program Certified Consultant

Are We Selling Our Children Short? From Dr Gutstein

Added on by Katherine Lee.

In all of my years as an autism researcher, I have yet to come across another model that does what RDI® does. The problem that I see in the autism community at large is that everyone is only offering the ability to learn little discrete skills.

They are underestimating the children.

Dr. Steven Gutstein

At RDI®, we believe that everyone should think BIG!

The truth is, the world needs to raise the bar on autism treatment.


Children are being forced to parrot back scripted questions and higher levels of ability are virtually unheard of--much less laying the foundation for motivation and dynamic intelligence.

Parents are being trained--without even knowing it--to accept very little for their children.

With RDI®, we want you to think bigger for your child!


We want to raise that bar and say, "Look, your child CAN have all that."

They can have dynamic intelligence, fulfilling relationships and a real shot at independence and quality of life in adulthood.

If you're interested in talking with RDI® professionals, other parents and adults on the spectrum, join our online community.

You'll also have access to the most up-to-date autism research, exclusive articles, webinars, tutorials and more.

Blessings,

Dr. Steven Gutstein and Dr. Rachelle Sheely

P.S. If you're interested in learning more about how RDI® can help your child, no matter their age, read or listen to "Teens, Adults and Autism," an RDIconnect podcast episode.

Anxiety

Added on by Katherine Lee.

It's not always easy to spot the signs of anxiety in children, especially children on the spectrum.

Up to nearly 50% of autistic children receive another diagnosis at some point in their development, and the most common co-occurring condition is anxiety.

Children with autism often experience anxiety like neurotypical children, but sometimes it can show up in a different way.

8 Ways a Child's Anxiety Shows Up as Something Else

1. Anger
2. Difficulty sleeping
3. Defiance
4. Chandeliering
5. Lack of Focus
6. Avoidance
7. Negativity
8. Overplanning

To learn more about these coping tactics and how to recognize and reduce your child's anxiety, read our latest blog "Spotting Signs of Anxiety in Children with Autism."

Read the Blog

Declarative Language with Children

Added on by Katherine Lee.

Laying the Foundation for Intrinsic Motivation through Declarative Language

by RDIconnect | Feb 19, 2021 | Communicating, Guiding Relationship, Parenting | 0 comments

Why should we avoid imperative language when Guiding our children?

Being asked questions is perceived as a demand by many children. In fact, questions or demands actually raise blood pressure in the child, putting them on the defensive! In a MindGuiding relationship (or any relationship for that matter) if the apprentice is put on the defensive it will shut down their natural curiosity and their desire to want to learn and it will activate their flight/fight/fright response. 

So, what do we do instead? We use Declarative Language. 

RDI Consultant Linda Murphy shares:

Declarative language, plain and simple, is stating out loud what one knows or thinks in the form of a comment. It may be used to share an opinion (I love spaghetti!); make a prediction (I think we are going to the movies tomorrow.); announce / celebrate (We had a great time today!); observe (I notice that your friend wants a turn.); reflect on past experience (Last time this stopped working we checked the batteries.); or problem solve (We need tape to fix it.). Declarative language does not require a verbal response. Rather, it invites experience-sharing, and provides an ideal social framework for later conversational interactions. (taken from an article inside the RDI Online Learning Community)

Making comments is a great way to engage our children without them feeling like a demand was placed on them. 

Using Declarative language to build Intrinsic Motivation 

Allana Robinson shares the following example of how using declarative language in everyday parenting can help your child develop intrinsic motivation:

Since declarative statements don’t give children the answer on a silver platter (Close the door. Stop climbing the stairs.) They have to use critical thinking skills to determine why you would be drawing attention to a behaviour they’re exhibiting, and decide for themselves to change it. This flips the motivation from external (I’m doing this because she told me to) to intrinsic (I’ve decided this isn’t a safe/good thing to do.) See how we changed this from blind obedience to their idea?

WOW! That is exactly what we want to install in our children right? 

What is RDI?

RDI® is not a behavior therapy and it is not a checklist of skills that have to be learned. RDI® is an intervention of gradually re-building the foundations of the Guiding Relationship that have been affected by autism.

We do this, not by “getting” a child to do something but by teaching parents how to create customized experiences (unique for your child) over a period of years that focus on activating growth seeking, building intrinsic motivation and giving the child the mental & emotional abilities that we all count on to survive this dynamic world.